False views like these pervade what is often assumed as “Christian spirituality.”
Self-rejection is being more like God.
What makes us equal to each other is our sin.
Only way to love is through God’s love. To accept this is to deny oneself.
Never love others for who they are, but solely for the sake of grace.
But being too God centered or practicing self-oblivion for God’s name sake is not spiritual. Instead, let’s start with loving God, loving ourselves and neighbors for who we are, and then going on from there to “live in the world.”