Thursday, August 9, 2012

The ZigZag Café - August 9

We will be convening here at the ZigZag café, Suisse, on Thursdays for conversation and dialogue. I invite you to stop by every Thursday for the question of the day. Your thoughts and participation are most welcome. Pull up a stool, avec un café, un thé, ou un chocolat chaud, et un croissant, and join in here on Thursday at the ZZ café.

For today:

Do we have any right to demand how someone should love us?


Anonymous said...

I meant to comment on here awhile ago and say- good question Greg.. And what are your thoughts? If we can describe love I would say that we have some sort of right but I guess we would have to talk about rights- and justice- maybe we should suggest rather than demand. I don't know. I just don't like the word demand.

Greg said...

Thanks. Good point. It's hard to talk about and live love without some notion of justice - otherwise love can mean anything a lover or abuser might want it to, and the former, while being better than the latter, still leaves it too open.

I would wager that 'demand' could be aligned with being loved justly - meaning one has worth and value and therefore deserves to be loved according, at least to some degree, for who they are. So I guess 'right' has some measure of validity, but it has to be in dialogue with God and other as to which degree and measure is appropriate without becoming self-centered and selfish, not accepting the limitations of being loved in precisely all the ways we may in actuality need.